Dear Buqaei family,
My name is Irina Vencu and I am the wife of Hamzeh Buqaei since 2008. As you well know from the Mbarakeh that you all have attended, we have a child together, Iosif Hector Buqaei, born in 2012 in Switzerland, the place where we both decided to raise our family and live. The choice to live in a third country, not Romania and not Jordan, was one of the conditions my Father agreed with Hamzeh before the wedding and was once again mentioned later in the matters talked between my father and my husband.
With time things proved not to work out between the two of us and for the better of both of us I tried to reach an arrangement to continue life on separate ways.
On 22th of August Hamzeh, instead of continuing with the separation process in Switzerland, decided to take Iosif, our son, against my will and without my knowledge and run to Jordan, living me in debt. My husband stopped paying bills for the house and kindergarten from June, and also didn’t buy food anymore, two months before August when he left with our son to Jordan. I wonder, is it not his duty as a husband to provide for his family?
He is refusing any possible agreement between the two of us in order to solve the problems created by his runaway. The way things are now cannot represent a solution neither for me, for my husband or for our son Iosif. And there is no moral or legal law that says the child should be separated from his mother, especially when he is only 3 years old.
I also believe no one should take justice in his own hands or not respect the rights of others, especially family. I also believe Iosif needs his family in Jordan as much as he needs his family in Romania. Iosif needs a mother and a father even if Hamzeh and I will separate.
As you are aware I never tried to stop my husband and my son to visit the family in Jordan – the visit at the end of July this year being the proof of that.
Beside this, now, there is already a court order giving temporary custody of our son to myself. And this was granted because Hamzeh chose not to work together with me on a solution and decided to leave and deceive me about his plans. The fact that he doesn’t attend any of the meetings set by the Tribunal in Zurich makes him look bad in front of our common friends in Switzerland and I also feel embarrassed and I have no answers to give.
I don’t want to press further with the legal procedures but if my husband doesn’t live me any other choice and doesn’t want to let me be with my son, I will have to continue, which might lead to very serious consequences.
I appeal to your good judgment to advise myself and my husband in such way that we can get a solution and we can live the two of us and Iosif, our child, good lives from now onwards.
I believe telling the truth, communicating and working together with my husband and with you, we can move forward in an acceptable way.
Please get in touch with me and with Hamzeh and let’s reach a solution together. A solution that will help a mother be with her child.
Respectfully yours,
Irina Vencu 5th of October 2015
